I have been struggling with saying what i am going to say for almost 3 years now.....i just didn't know how to put it into words which made sense. But then i guess one sometimes needs to just get down at it and take it up as a "to do" and hope to finish it...
I sometimes wonder what people mean when they say - one needs to let go or one needs to move on. I personally find both these expressions immensely amusing. Every time i hear one of them I have a speech bubble in my head with the following scene running in them
One needs to let go - Popeye holding Pluto by his neck after popping a can of spinach and Pluto saying Let me go - Popeye one needs to let go!!!
One needs to move on - Charlie Chaplin's movie (i keep forgetting the name) where he is in a prison and the person ahead of him is fighting with the server for food and Chaplin just points to him and says one needs to move on - move it - move it!!!!
And when people say it to me they possibly see this blank expression in my eyes b'coz i am trying very hard to look concerned and agree with them but then all i can manage is not laugh uncontrollably.
For me holding on to things and events is not such a bad thing. I personally think we as people are a sum total of all the experiences we have had and our character is a like a mosaic - which is an ever evolving thing with every chip or experience that you put into it. So if this is true then i don't know where letting things go fits into the equation.
Let's take an example. Say a person gets fired from his first job. Now in his head he did everything he could to be a success and he also thought that he was very good. But then someone whose opinion mattered did not. And undoubtedly to his impressionable mind it was unacceptable and he couldn't stop wallowing about he doesn't understand why and how it could happen to him. Say this was 2 yrs ago n let's fast forward to today. This person would have had 2 choices - to let things go and to hold them in some corner of his heart and let the pain or humiliation hit him in small doses sometimes.
I think if he chose the first route he would have been happier in the short term and possibly regained confidence sooner and would have attacked the job market with a vengeance. But in this process he would have made 2 cardinal mistakes - he would have moved on from this incident believing that life had been unfair to him and would never question his own ability. On the other hand if he wallows in what happened for a linger time and carries this incident as an important event of his life with him forever then he will think about it so many times that he will eventually know precisely what went wrong. And most importantly what to watch out for in the future.
Needless to say i prefer the second route as long as it doesn't become self destructive. I think good or bad incidents in life must be treated like a holiday. The small moments within them should be sorted through, clicked n then pasted on to an album for keepsake. And someday while you listen to your favourite music and sip a cup of tea or something stronger as you wish - you should turn the pages of these albums n laugh, cry and sometimes hate yourself ......but do always remember that you are a sum total of all those pictures put together.
I sometimes wonder what people mean when they say - one needs to let go or one needs to move on. I personally find both these expressions immensely amusing. Every time i hear one of them I have a speech bubble in my head with the following scene running in them
One needs to let go - Popeye holding Pluto by his neck after popping a can of spinach and Pluto saying Let me go - Popeye one needs to let go!!!
One needs to move on - Charlie Chaplin's movie (i keep forgetting the name) where he is in a prison and the person ahead of him is fighting with the server for food and Chaplin just points to him and says one needs to move on - move it - move it!!!!
And when people say it to me they possibly see this blank expression in my eyes b'coz i am trying very hard to look concerned and agree with them but then all i can manage is not laugh uncontrollably.
For me holding on to things and events is not such a bad thing. I personally think we as people are a sum total of all the experiences we have had and our character is a like a mosaic - which is an ever evolving thing with every chip or experience that you put into it. So if this is true then i don't know where letting things go fits into the equation.
Let's take an example. Say a person gets fired from his first job. Now in his head he did everything he could to be a success and he also thought that he was very good. But then someone whose opinion mattered did not. And undoubtedly to his impressionable mind it was unacceptable and he couldn't stop wallowing about he doesn't understand why and how it could happen to him. Say this was 2 yrs ago n let's fast forward to today. This person would have had 2 choices - to let things go and to hold them in some corner of his heart and let the pain or humiliation hit him in small doses sometimes.
I think if he chose the first route he would have been happier in the short term and possibly regained confidence sooner and would have attacked the job market with a vengeance. But in this process he would have made 2 cardinal mistakes - he would have moved on from this incident believing that life had been unfair to him and would never question his own ability. On the other hand if he wallows in what happened for a linger time and carries this incident as an important event of his life with him forever then he will think about it so many times that he will eventually know precisely what went wrong. And most importantly what to watch out for in the future.
Needless to say i prefer the second route as long as it doesn't become self destructive. I think good or bad incidents in life must be treated like a holiday. The small moments within them should be sorted through, clicked n then pasted on to an album for keepsake. And someday while you listen to your favourite music and sip a cup of tea or something stronger as you wish - you should turn the pages of these albums n laugh, cry and sometimes hate yourself ......but do always remember that you are a sum total of all those pictures put together.
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